Episode 75: Julie Lythcott-Haims – Raising Independent Kids

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the NYT Bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to her popular Ted Talk. Her newest book is coming out, it is called Your Turn: How to be an Adult. Julie is also the author of a poetry memoir called Real American which illustrates her experience as a black and biracial person in white spaces.

Julie worked at Stanford University as the Dean of Freshman for over a decade and she noticed a rise in parental involvement in students’ lives. That is where the book, How to Raise an Adult, came from. Julie has two children.

What we talked about:

6:40- Introduction to Julie

9:00- Her role as a dean at Stanford and how it shaped how she parented her own kids

18:20- Allowing your kids to roam freely

26:55- Balancing structure and free play 

32:00- The methods to encourage kids to do things on their own

39:35- Benchmarks for various ages

46:25- Parents helping too much with their kid’s homework

49:00- Giving your kids agency

56:45- End of podcast questions

Show notes:

Julie’s Website

Julie on Instagram

Julie’s Ted Talk

How to Raise an Adult

Your Turn: How to be an Adult

Real American

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